I’ve noticed a pattern in myself when i date and I don’t like it. It goes like this: I meet someone new, we hit it off. We have a few dates, sometimes it turns into a full relationship. I become anxious and disinterested out of nowhere. I end things or the relationship fizzles out. I don’t go on another date for months or even years. Repeat. Two years ago i ended my first long term relationship after fighting the anxiety for months. I decided after that I would take a break from dating to try and fix whatever is wrong, but i can’t figure out how. Ive gone on a few dates over the years but this has been weighing on me so heavily that I can’t bring myself past the first date. I don’t have any particular trauma that could be causing this reaction, it seems like im just born this way. Is there any way that I can work on this avoidance outside of dating? I really don’t want to hurt anyone else just because i have some weird mental block.
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